Thursday, July 7, 2011

How Premature Ejaculation Affects Relationships



Premature ejaculation can certainly take a toll on a relationship. Whether a couple waits until after marriage or not to be sexual, intercourse plays a huge role in the success and happiness of a relationship. Over time, unresolved sexual problems can slowly chip away at a relationship for both partners.


Effective communication is crucial to a healthy long-lasting relationship, however it can often times be difficult for a man to discuss his premature ejaculation concerns with his partner. There is a lot of unnecessary shame that is associated with the condition and many men think that admitting that they have a problem controlling their arousal means that they are less of a man. Not talking about the problem will actually make things that much worse. Misunderstandings, hurt feelings, and anger can quickly escalate, all of which can make premature ejaculation even worse. 


On an evolutionary level, intercourse promotes what scientists call “pair bonding” and it is crucial for a healthy and successful relationship. During sex, and particularly during orgasm, chemicals such as oxytocin and dopamine are released that strengthen the bond between partners. There is an increased feeling of security and trust, as well as an increase in emotional attachment. These bonding emotions are crucial to the strength of a couple. When a man isn’t able to perform as well as he should, both partners not only miss out on these healthy bonding chemicals, but instead are left with negative feelings of inadequacy and disappointment.  This can actually make premature ejaculation symptoms even more prominent.


Sometimes premature ejaculation will actually prevent men from pursuing relationships in the first place. The man may actually avoid sexual relationships altogether for fear of rejection or embarrassment. They feel that they can’t adequately satisfy a woman so they just avoid sexual encounters all together. Most men won’t talk about their premature ejaculation, especially with a new partner, so when they do attempt intercourse, the woman often misunderstands why the man can’t perform. Over time avoiding relationships because of premature ejaculation can lead to depression as the man is cutting himself off from other people to avoid his issues. 


Men naturally are not apt to discuss any sort of personal problem with anyone else, especially sexual ones. So much of a man’s perception of their masculinity rides on their ability to perform sexually that they don’t want to let anyone know of any performance problems they may be having. If a man is in a relationship however, he has to learn how to talk to his partner. Even men embarking on a new sexual relationship should open up at least a little bit. You don’t have to pour your heart out and tell them every intimate detail about your premature ejaculation, but open up just a little bit. At the same time, their partners need to be patient and understanding. Men in relationships with effective communication often times are better able at resolving their issues than those who cannot talk to their partner.


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How Exercising Helps With Premature Ejaculation



If overall well being and better health weren’t enough motivation to get you to exercise, how about overcoming your premature ejaculation and being a better lover? Obviously exercise will help you look and feel better, giving a major boost to your confidence, but the benefits of exercise don’t stop there. Working some sort of exercise into your regular schedule can lead to surprising results in bed.


All of the overall health benefits of exercise can be translated into sexual benefits as well. There have actually been studies that have made a connection between physical inactivity with a lack of ejaculation control. Men who had low levels of physical activities were shown to have less control over their ejaculation and arousal during sex, as well as having less fulfilling sexual experiences. It’s easy to figure out the benefits of cardio on your sex life. It will make your heart stronger, increase you lung capacity, and allow you to keep going longer. Muscular strength actually plays a large part in sex, especially when you venture out from the missionary and cowgirl positions. Flexibility is also useful for the same reason. 


Mentally, it’s been shown that increased physical activity will make you happier and calmer as well as increase your sexual desire. When exercising regularly, you will begin to feel better about your body. Being naked in front of your partner can be stressful if you don’t feel good about your body, which increases your stress levels during intercourse, leading to premature ejaculation and a poor performance. Feeling good about your body alleviates that stress, making ejaculation control much easier. 


During exercise, levels of serotonin naturally increase. On the other hand, low levels of this hormone have been linked to premature ejaculation. Not only do levels of serotonin naturally increase during exercise, but they don’t go back down afterwards, they stay at an increased level for a substantial period of time. Higher levels of serotonin create a feeling of calmness in your body, and this calm feeling will follow you into the bedroom. Part of the reason for premature ejaculation is the inability to control your arousal, causing you to climax quickly. If you are able to calm your emotions during sex, you will be able to last longer. Understandably, many men who suffer from PE also begin to succumb to depression. Exercise will increase levels of feel-good chemicals like serotonin, which will help lessen depression. 


It would also be good to mention at this point that sex is a great way to burn calories. As you begin to get a handle on your premature ejaculation treatment, you will be able to last longer and longer. This will make you healthier, allowing you to last even longer and make intercourse even more enjoyable. Staying active will also help you as you age. Seniors who are physically active have actually reported having the same amount of sex, as well as the same levels of sexual pleasure, as people decades younger than them. 


Exercise can play a role in helping with premature ejaculation, but to totally combat the problem it will require quite a bit more. I recommend the ejaculation by command, which is the leading solution available for premature ejaculation. Everything you could possibly know about premature ejaculation and how to overcome it is covered there in great detail.

How Diet Contributes to Premature Ejaculation



It may have never crossed your mind, but what you are eating can have an effect on how you are performing sexually. Think about it, sex is really just another form of exercise, albeit much more fun than running. Just like you wouldn't expect to perform your best on the field if you haven't been eating right, you can't expect to perform the best you can in bed either. Just a few simple changes will not only help you last longer and perform better, but it will also help you in all aspects of your life.


You know what you have to do. You have to cut back on all those foods that you know are bad for you. Burgers, beer, candy, soda, it all leads to an unhealthy body and an unhealthy body can't perform to its full potential in bed. These foods leave your body feeling sluggish, you will notice highs and lows as your blood sugar is on a roller coaster, and you will begin to get out of breath doing even simple things like going up a flight of stairs. If you can't even make it to the bedroom without your heart racing, how do you expect to keep going for any length of time during sex? There have been amazing testimonials from men who have changed their diet and were surprised by the effects that it had on their sexual performance. Not only have these men become better at controlling their ejaculation during intercourse, but they also reported their erections being much firmer. Men were reporting being able to feel their pulse in their erection, something they never experienced before. 


There are a number of ways to begin eating healthier. Doing some form of cleanse has become a popular option. Most people go with a colon cleanse. Cleanses rid your body of the toxins and junk that has built up in your body over years of eating fatty, unhealthy food. You have to go beyond a cleanse though, what you put in your body has to change too. A Mediterranean diet has the best guidelines to follow. Fruits and vegetables are the focus of the meals and meats are seen as a side dish. While you start to eat healthy, don't forget to remember the importance of carbohydrates in your diet. There's a reason that athletes load of up on carbs before a big game. While you don't need to “carb up” each time before you have sex, keeping them in your diet and maybe having an extra piece of bread or two if you think you might be getting some a little later on might not be a bad idea. Most importantly, carbs release serotonin into the body, and serotonin plays a key role on when you ejaculate. Since serotonin is created by your body's digestive system, poor eating habits can be a contributing factor when levels are low.


However you decide to do it, incorporating a healthier diet into your life is extremely important if you want to overcome your premature ejaculation treatment. A healthier body is better able to keep up with the rigors of sex, and you will also just be able to control you erections and your arousal better. Not only that, becoming healthier will make you feel better about your body, and that confidence will translate into your sexual performance.


It may not seem like it so much, but diet really can have a direct effect on when you ejaculate. The ejaculation by command ebook covers everything you need to know to gain permanent control over your ejaculation. It even discusses dieting and how it relates to premature ejaculation, including the foods to eat and the foods to avoid.

Arousal Control and Premature Ejaculation



Many men who suffer from premature ejaculation have a hard time believing there is a way to control their arousal. They feel that they are completely out of control of their bodies, unable to stop the inevitable. There is a way to overcome the loss of control however, and it lies in learning what is going on during arousal and how to regain composure over your body. This is covered in more depth in the Ejaculation Trainer.


Problems with controlling arousal often have their roots in adolescence. During our younger years intercourse and masturbation have to be rushed, usually for fear of getting caught. Over time this will actually train the body to climax as soon as possible regardless of the situation. While this may have proved useful in younger years, it becomes an issue of frustration and embarrassment later on in life. To be able to get past these problems, men need to get their arousal back under control and re-train their body to have a longer ejaculatory threshold. 


Some men find that the use of alcohol or prescription medications allows them to last longer, but this is just a short-term solution that masks what the real problem is. The body will also begin to build up a tolerance, making them less effective over time. Then when you quit using them, the problem is even worse than before. It should also be noted that it’s not a good idea in any way to get drunk each time before you have sex. Alcohol consumption should be kept at a minimum. There are also over the counter drugs, creams, and condoms that claim to help men control their arousal and prevent premature ejaculation. While any of these options may prove to be an effective quick fix to premature ejaculation, they aren’t a real solution, they just mask the problem. A man will become dependant on this outside help, when really all he needs to do is rely on himself.


Since the body has been conditioned to climax as quickly as possible, the long-term solution to completely alleviating premature ejaculation is to recondition the body to prolong climax. Often times, when a man is suffering from premature ejaculation, he feels like he is out of control of his body, that he is just a victim to his arousal. That doesn’t have to be the case however. With some basic training and learning some important knowledge, a man can effectively understand how his body responds to arousal, and with this knowledge he will learn to control himself. Learning arousal control allows the man to control himself from the very beginning of a sexual situation. A knowledge of certain techniques is also crucial for those moments where a man can feel himself starting to lose control.. 


There are a few different programs available for men who want to get to the core of their premature ejaculation treatment. These programs are most effective when they teach a man a number of different ways to understand and control his arousal. Muscle control as well as mental control should be covered. The emergency tactics for those close call situations also should be part of the training program. A well-rounded ejaculation control program will teach men what they need to know so they are no longer a victim to their arousal. 


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